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Overcoming the “Dark Night of the Soul” Series — Part Ten — Why Fearing Mistakes Holds You Back And Is The Greatest Mistake Of All

Believe In Yourself 

Many people are afraid of making mistakes when they attempt to do something. Some are so petrified of making a mistake that they are afraid of trying something new, afraid of expanding their skill set because they are afraid of doing it incorrectly and making a mistake. They’re afraid of the embarrassment of making the mistake in front of others, and they’re afraid of possible ridicule they may experience from making that mistake in front of others. However, allowing yourself to not try anything new, going through new experiences, and learning new skills is a recipe for holding you back from your greatest potential and is the greatest mistake of all that you can make.

When you shy away from trying anything new, you’re limiting your own potential and your own ability to handle things. It also limits your ability to achieve accomplishments you set out to do, as well as limits you from achieving your best possible self. Who knows what you can accomplish if you are willing to try new things. You may learn you have an innate ability to produce something or handle something that could help the world, but if you are afraid to try an activity or two that involves this skill, you may never discover it, and the world at large will suffer because of your fear to try the new activity that could reveal your hidden skill.

Additionally, you are denying yourself of your true potential by being afraid of taking on new challenges and activities. You think you are protecting yourself from fear, embarrassment, and ridicule by avoiding doing new tasks whenever possible, but in truth, you are just hiding behind the usual tasks you know you can do well because it’s safe and comfortable. Virtually every great person has had to get out of their comfort zone to find out what they truly excel at and make their lives meaningful and great.

Sure, you can go life just doing the mundane tasks you know you can do well, but will that truly fulfill you? Will you truly be happy? Will you achieve your best ability by just doing the mundane tasks you know you can do well? Very likely, you will not. Unfortunately, you’ll never know your real self and your truest, highest potential if you don’t try new activities that expand your skill set and help you to grow as an individual. Therefore, shying away from new activities out of fear, embarrassment, and/or ridicule is the greatest mistake you can make and the greatest obstacle to you reaching your truest, fullest potential.

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Overcoming the “Dark Night of the Soul” Series — Part Nine — Why Trying New Activities/Challenges Is A Great Learning Experience

This is Part Nine of a Ten Part series on how to overcome the depressing “Dark Night of the Soul” that people experience

Most people get nervous when they try new activities or challenges. Some people get so anxious and apprehensive about it that they attempt to avoid trying any new activities or challenges whenever and wherever possible. Unfortunately, that approach helps to limit their growth as an individual because it’s trying new activities and challenges that really help you to grow as an individual, achieve your truest potential, and really make the greatest impact on the world. Additionally, you also receive the best benefits (fame, fortune, recognition, etc.) from making the greatest impact on the world, but that only comes from growing as an individual through trying new activities/challenges.

When you try a new activity or challenge, you are stepping outside of your comfort zone to learn something new and improve your skill set. You are looking to improve yourself by going through the experience and learning the process. Chances are high that you will make some mistakes along the way; the process of making mistakes is also a learning experience. Some people shy away from making mistakes out of fear or because they are afraid that they will be embarrassed or ridiculed for making them, but in truth, making mistakes is part of the learning process that helps us to grow as individuals and to better ourselves. This is how we learn to achieve our truest and greatest potential.

Virtually no one achieves their greatest potential just doing the same tasks day after day, not experimenting with or experiencing anything new. Sometimes, you have to step outside of doing the ordinary, comfortable things in order to see things from a new light or perspective that enables you to find a better way to do the same, ordinary things or even to create something new that can make life better for many.

By trying new challenges/experiences, you can learn a new skill set, plus you learn more about yourself and your ability to handle and rebound from difficulty when you likely make a mistake or two during the process. Life doesn’t go smoothly that often; part of adjusting to and making the most out of life is to be able to overcome difficulties and still producing at a high level. Going through new challenges and experiences can help you to gain a new perspective on things, learn to overcome difficulties or challenges (especially unexpected ones), and boost your self-confidence to where you are confident you can handle unexpected difficulties and be able to achieve your greatest potential.

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Overcoming the “Dark Night of the Soul” Series — Part Seven — How To Gain Confidence In Your Own Abilities And Instincts

Gaining confidence in your own abilities and instincts is key to achieving your best potential and the greatness that lies within you. You need to be able to trust yourself and your skill set to handle life’s challenges well and be seen as someone who can make a positive difference and/or impact in people’s lives. If you don’t have confidence in your own abilities and instincts, others won’t either, and you will always hold yourself to reaching your best potential and ability in life. Therefore, it is vital you gain confidence in your own abilities and instincts to reach your greatest potential; learn how to gain that confidence below.

To gain more confidence in your own abilities and instincts, first, look back upon the successes you’ve had in your life. This can be doing well in a course, getting your first job, being hired in the working world for the first time as a professional, etc. Look back at all these successes and realize that you have the ability to achieve great successes and accomplishments, and you have already achieved several, even if you don’t think about them often. This can increase your confidence that you have what it takes to succeed in this world and need to trust those skills and instincts more.

Second, you need to be willing to try new tasks and activities. This will increase your skill set and enable you to gain confidence in you handling a wide variety of situations and challenges. By experiencing the feeling of handling a new task or activity well, you will gain confidence in your abilities and instincts to handle various situation.

Third, talk with family, friends, and/or colleagues about what you have done. You could mention that you are having some doubts or difficulties about your own abilities and are wondering if you can handle the situation you need to handle. Chances are high that these people can remind you of your skills and abilities to handle challenges and that you are up to the current task you are taking on. Sometimes, it can benefit us to hear from other people how much confidence they have in us and our abilities because you’re hearing it from an outside source who has seen you perform in various situations, which will give you the confidence and belief that you have the abilities and instincts to handle various situations you will encounter in life.